All posts by Jesse Carlock

“Journaling” by Patti Schwartztrauber, L.I.S.W.

Original Author: Patti Schwartztrauber, L.I.S.W. Journaling is a term used to describe the practice of keeping a diary or journal that explores thoughts and feelings regarding life and events. It differs from a simply keeping a diary in that it is used to record feelings and thoughts, to be used to clarify and provide self-understanding. Journaling can […]

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The Solo Parts Party

Abstract Virginia Satir’s Parts Party method was originally designed as a way to manifest externally through the use of role-playing, what was happening internally with the dynamics between and among the parts that comprise the self. The method is useful for differentiation and integration of the self. The Parts Party is generally conducted in a […]

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Enhancing Self Esteem

When people tell me they have low self-esteem, I recognize this belief as a flat out  bias against self and this motivates me to try to help the person to move from this global self-condemnation of self to a more detailed look at the components of self and our evaluations of each of the parts.  […]

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Taste Everything

Are you blessed with an adventuresome spirit? If not, you can still develop a “try it” attitude. Now I’m not talking about just tasting foods or beverages but trying all kinds of new experiences. Someone once told me, “The risks you take help define you.” Venturing outside my comfort zone can be exhilarating too. I use my wisdom box to check inside and notice what fits and what does not.

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Sameness and Differentness

What unites people all over the world is our core sameness. Let me make this clear to those of you who are reading this. We are all the same in many ways. We have red blood cells, our heads are on top and our feet are at the bottom, and so on. Sameness forms the structure of a relationship; sameness is the foundation, the glue which unites us with one another. From this foundation we can move and grow. But sameness is not enough.

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Resources That Never Get Downsized

It’s become a sadly familiar story–struggling corporations that face weak markets shed workers and close facilities in order to stay afloat and increase profits. But there is one “human resource” that will never face downsizing—your Self.

Each of us is born with a basic set of fantastic inner resources. Satir called these basic tools the SELF-ESTEEM MAINTENANCE TOOL KIT. You may be aware of some of the tools in this kit, while others may be less familiar. And sometimes—particularly under stress—we may lose sight of these resources altogether. Once you are aware of them, you can practice using these tools to solve problems, chart new territory and recognize your choices. Fortunately, the Self grows in capacity over time as you add resources to your stockpile, enabling you to better manage the unpredictable nature of external changes.

Although the icons symbolizing the tools may change, the tools are universals which cross cultures, age and gender. The purpose of this toolkit is to remind us of our resources so that we can better utilize them, boosting our performance and becoming more versatile in our responses.

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The World Trade Center: September 11, 2001

The World Trade Center: September 11, 2001

September 20, 2001 I received a call from Crisis Management International, a company in Atlanta with which I am an Associate. They requested that I take an assignment in New York City conducting critical incident stress debriefings with companies in New York. I mulled the request over for two days before agreeing to go. I was not afraid of flying or of being in New York City, but I was afraid of the secondary trauma I might experience. I was already having trouble assimilating what had happened and worried about future attacks. I was also feeling the effects of processing client reactions for half of just about every session since the events of September 11. I wondered how effective I could be since I, too, was struggling. I was also concerned about the effects of my leaving on my clients.

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